I’ve been asked by readers to highlight the problems that are caused by women in relationships. So, here goes…
1. Entertaining another man
When you’re good looking… guys will
compliment you. It’s okay to be polite and to engage in small talk. It’s
also okay for you to get excited that a hot guy said, “You’re
gorgeous”. But when you decide to exchange phone numbers and justify
your actions by saying “he’s just a friend” then you’re asking for
trouble. As time passes, you begin to develop an emotional bond with
this man… you start to delete his inappropriate messages, you lock your
phone with passwords, you think about him during the days, you think
about him while you’re with your boyfriend.
When you have an argument with your boyfriend… guess who you’re gonna turn to?
2. Having too many drinks
Girls night out! You’re having a
great time with your friends… you feel nice (tipsy). A cute guy
introduces himself, offers to buy you a drink and you accept. He begins
to flirt, you flirt back. A few drinks later, he feels comfortable
enough to put his hand on your side while he seduces you.
By the way, this is not a ‘mistake’… you consciously allowed yourself to become vulnerable.
3. Making comparisons
When you constantly compare your
relationship to other couples… it will frustrate your man. You don’t
need to make remarks like “Why can’t you be as affectionate as
Matthew?” This, however, does not mean that you shouldn’t encourage
your man to improve in certain areas but there are more effective ways
to do so.
4. Lack of trust
When he was courting you, he used to
send you cute messages throughout the day. Even though he was at work
(or in class)… he found a way to constantly text you. It’s
understandable that you would love him to be as responsive as he was in
the dating stages… but his messaging rate was not sustainable. This does
not mean he’s becoming complacent, this does not mean he’s busy texting
other women, this does not mean he’s losing interest.
5. Constantly complaining to your female bestie
You don’t need to give your friend
all the negative details about your relationship… especially if you fail
to mention the good stuff that he does. If every time you’re upset with
your boyfriend, you feel the need to bad chat him with your bestie…
6. Becoming complacent
Your man values your personality,
that’s why he asked you to be his girlfriend. But a man also loves it
when his lady is looking stunning in a sexy dress. At the party, he
feels good to know that other men are thinking “damn dat girl look
good”. When he started dating you… you were energetic, spontaneous and
in-shape. These days, you make excuses for going out on a Friday night,
you make excuses for going to the gym, you make excuses for everything
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